Do you ever feel irritated at your hubby.... what about your children? This video is thought provoking and - though targeted towards spouses/the marriage relationship - it really applies to all relationships. It's definitely causing me reevaluate not only the way I respond to B... but also the way I sometimes respond to even KB...
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Monday, July 18, 2011
Friday, November 19, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Quote: Childhood is like sand in a sieve...
You're a man of high position, esteemed by your peers. And when your little tykes are crying, you haven't time to dry their tears... And see their thankful little faces smiling up at you... 'Cause their dad, he always knows just what to do.... ... You've got to grind, grind, grind at that grindstone... Though childhood slips like sand through a sieve... And all too soon they've up and grown, and then they've flown... And it's too late for you to give...~Bert (Mary Poppins)
Thursday, September 9, 2010
In this home....
I love, Love, LOVE this!!! ~ When we get into a home of our own... I WANT this wall decal somewhere in our decor!! What an amazing reminder!!!
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Leadership
A thought that was shared, and really resounded within me, recently....
"Leadership is not telling someone what to do... but the ability to affect human behavior so as to accomplish a mission, goal, or desire" ~JM
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Another post blessing from "Generous Wife"...
(an issue I am seriously trying to work on!!)
When your husband says something that you disagree with, the immediate moment may not be the best time to contest what he says. Sometimes it's kinder and more respectful to deal with it later privately and sometimes it's really not all that important and can be passed over altogether.
See everything, overlook a great deal, correct a little. Pope John XXII
(an issue I am seriously trying to work on!!)
When your husband says something that you disagree with, the immediate moment may not be the best time to contest what he says. Sometimes it's kinder and more respectful to deal with it later privately and sometimes it's really not all that important and can be passed over altogether.
See everything, overlook a great deal, correct a little. Pope John XXII
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Think Generous!
Shortly after we were married, I signed up for this daily email digest called "the Generous Wife" (likewise, my hubby gets companion elist, "the Generous Husband"). Everyday I receive an email with an idea on how I can bless my husband. (a mix of romantic, practical, sexual, relational, and spiritual). The tips aren't always appropriate for where we are.... but we are encouraged to take advantage of the ones that apply.... and then use the rest as a tool to spark your imagination, to find new ways to bless your husband.
Anyway, the subject lately has been a series "Things That Destroy Marriages"... talking to husbands about behaviors and attitudes that are destructive to marriage. Since the feedback from the series had been encouraging, they decided to send us wives the series... with a feminized/edit of the husband's tips and with a few more added that are more common to women.
Today's email esp. blessed me..
Tuesday July 22, 2008
From The Generous Husband series Things That Destroy Marriages ~.
From Paul to the husbands:
When you blow it, big time or in a minor way, do you deal with it in a way that blesses your bride? Do you apologize? Do you deal with it in a way that makes her feel you understand why your actions (or words) were wrong or painful? More than all of this, do you really repent - that is to change direction - make a real effort to not repeat what you have apologized for? If you are repeatedly apologizing for the same thing, something is wrong. If you care about her, you don't want to hurt her, and if you keep hurting her over and over for the same thing it quickly starts to look like you don't care.
By the way, you can also apologize for her feeling hurt by unintended consequences of something you say or do. Even though you didn't intend to hurt her, you can feel bad that you did.
But what about things that "shouldn't" hurt her but do? Maybe she is too sensitive about something - maybe she even admits she's too sensitive about something. Don't make it seem it's your fault if it's not, but you can say "I'm sorry that hurts."
My thoughts:
All of this is appropriate for us gals. Do say you're sorry when you've done something hurtful or wrong. Do be serious about changing when you need to. It's ok to say you're sorry over your spouse's pain, even when you haven't done anything wrong.
Never ruin an apology with an excuse. Kimberly Johnson
Think generous! Lori <><
Anyway, the subject lately has been a series "Things That Destroy Marriages"... talking to husbands about behaviors and attitudes that are destructive to marriage. Since the feedback from the series had been encouraging, they decided to send us wives the series... with a feminized/edit of the husband's tips and with a few more added that are more common to women.
Today's email esp. blessed me..
Tuesday July 22, 2008
From The Generous Husband series Things That Destroy Marriages ~.
From Paul to the husbands:
When you blow it, big time or in a minor way, do you deal with it in a way that blesses your bride? Do you apologize? Do you deal with it in a way that makes her feel you understand why your actions (or words) were wrong or painful? More than all of this, do you really repent - that is to change direction - make a real effort to not repeat what you have apologized for? If you are repeatedly apologizing for the same thing, something is wrong. If you care about her, you don't want to hurt her, and if you keep hurting her over and over for the same thing it quickly starts to look like you don't care.
By the way, you can also apologize for her feeling hurt by unintended consequences of something you say or do. Even though you didn't intend to hurt her, you can feel bad that you did.
But what about things that "shouldn't" hurt her but do? Maybe she is too sensitive about something - maybe she even admits she's too sensitive about something. Don't make it seem it's your fault if it's not, but you can say "I'm sorry that hurts."
My thoughts:
All of this is appropriate for us gals. Do say you're sorry when you've done something hurtful or wrong. Do be serious about changing when you need to. It's ok to say you're sorry over your spouse's pain, even when you haven't done anything wrong.
Never ruin an apology with an excuse. Kimberly Johnson
Think generous! Lori <><
Thursday, June 24, 2004
TFY: Thursday, June 24, 2004 (11:30pm)
O what a beautiful morning, O what a beautiful day, I've got a beautiful feeling, everything's going my way... "
it was a FANTASTIC day! :)
I just got home from spending an awesome afternoon/evening with
Bill's family!! I went to Joy, Bill's sister's, violin rehearsal with
them (she is doing SO well!!), and afterward, they offered to take me
out to dinner to my favorite restaurant, Papa Nicks! (Yumm!) Even Mr.
C finished work early, and was able to join us! We had a very nice
time together -- David even colored me a new picture for my bulletin
board (I'm very excited) 
After
dinner, we went over to the C's house for Ice cream, TONS
of fun (David, Joy & I had a BLAST playing games such as: Uno™,
Charades & Memory, together!) and a surprise phone conversation
with my wonderful man, whom I miss SO much! As the night ended, I said goodbye to what I trully feel is my
[new] family, and practically floated home, feeling so blessed, as I
talked to my Cap'n' on the cell phone.
After
dinner, we went over to the C's house for Ice cream, TONS
of fun (David, Joy & I had a BLAST playing games such as: Uno™,
Charades & Memory, together!) and a surprise phone conversation
with my wonderful man, whom I miss SO much! As the night ended, I said goodbye to what I trully feel is my
[new] family, and practically floated home, feeling so blessed, as I
talked to my Cap'n' on the cell phone.
The Lord is sooo good, and it has been such a neat thing, to
watch as He continues to fit all the pieces together, to form His
perfect plan for our lives! I am constanly amazed at how, the more I
come to love his family, the deeper my love grows for him. I
have enjoyed every opportunity I have had to spend with his family,
and look forward to many more in the future! They have trully made me
feel like a new & special part of the their family and I
consider myself to be SO blessed! God is truly a God of wonders!
Well, that's my wonderful day!
I must be going!
Thanx for listening!
~Tiph
* Shocking side note:* His mom even said something to him (when
talking to him earlier today), about getting ready to go pick up his'
"finance" to take her to Joy's lesson and then out to dinner. ::surprise:: I was shocked when he told me that! -- He said it didn't even hit him, until about a half hour after they hung up... LoL 
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